Got into this real crazy discussion with Spiky and T the other day. You know, the thing which guys do once in a while to prove that there’s life beyond the Internet. The discussion was, what if you were hooked up with someone (as in Going steady types) and your ex, the one-time big love-crush-infatuation-crush my heart and hope to die-whatchamacallit love comes back and says, “I was wrong, you were right, lets give US an another go…” Would you do that. Would you leave your current someone special, the current “good friend of mine” to go back to the old one?

We debated this for a full hour over some real good Bhurji and Pao-bhaji, and keeping privacy of ppl in question in mind, I’d not go into specifics.

Here are some of the thoughts that came up:

What if the Ex was the soulmate. The one girl you’d die for, the girl who always assumes command of your fantasy dreams, the Venus-Aphrodite rolled into one babe. The woman whom you always trusted to manage your family.

Then again, do such babes actually exist? I mean, she left you, one time, you wanted her to be with you, and she made a decision and went away, walked out of your life. One moment, she was there, the emotional support pillar, the other moment you are listening to Nickleback playing “This is how you remind me… ”

What about the present Girl, whats her fault, she’s making an emotional investment into you. Does one make a settlement if he doesnt get the 1st love? Are 2nd loves not that great? Are n-th loves? Can one even fall in love for more than one time? What is LOVE anyway, just a bundle of undefinable emotions.

Reminds me of that Ross and Rachel thing from friends. On one hand, its a chance to set your life straight, to believe in strong words like Destiny and Serendipity, and to be with someone whom you always wanted to live your life with. But sooner or later, the realization will come, she’s been with someone, everything you do together, someone’s already probably done that, its not the matter of hoopla of Virginity or narrow mindedness (that was another spinoff discussion altogether) but more on always being aware of being compared, self-evaluation or otherwise.

I for one, fool for love that I am, who still wishes one day Catherine will leave Douglas and stay with me :), would say No to that ex, cute though she is, hot though she is, Dreamgirl though she was, you’ll always have a special place in my memory Harddisk, but your files are now read only. I cant open them again. I learnt a lot from you, but moved on or not, time’s come to give someone else a fair chance.

Nimmo has full Admin rights to me :)

-fN
PS: I’ve read it in 100 different places that its not a good thing to mention your Ex in conversations with a potential Nimmo, I’ve done that sometimes unknowingly, and to tell from experience, if 100 places say it, its mostly right :)

What do you people think?