What makes a woman attractive?

In my humble opinion, everything. Here is list of things people have had Fetishes on..

  • Hair
  • Face
  • Lips
  • Eyes
  • Forehead
  • Neckline
  • Collarbones
  • Armpits
  • Arms
  • Back
  • Breasts
  • Fingers
  • Fingernails
  • Belly
  • Bellybutton
  • and so on and so forth…

As a designer, there is no one greater than God himself, and he has created the female of the species with such deadly features, that one can fall for any one of them. There is no part of a female body which cannot arouse a man.

Yet, everyone has his own preferences, these preferences may change over time, but will remain preferences none the less. With the flux of scantily clad females now swarming the Media networks, the excitement effect has lessened.

I still remember the day, when I was in 8th standard, we had gone to see The Mask, I still remember when Cameron Diaz walks into the bank, and bends down to adjust her sandals, that moment, to my young sensitive mind, was bliss. I enjoyed the movie for many reasons, and Jim Carrey has since then been my guru, but lets not venture into that here.

Since then, the world has come a long way. Gone are the days when people objected to Karishma singing “Sexy sexy sexy mujhe log bolein…” and made fuss on Mamta Kulkarni coming semi-nude on Stardust. With the amount of skin splashed all over the place in the present day, it has lost all its aphrodisiac qualities.

Too much Erotica is not erotic at all.

With each new music video showing more and more scantily clad babes attempting Indianized pole and belly dances, and pretty sad attempts at that, its no longer erotic. The mind gets sensitized to it. Add to this the fact that the regular girl one ends up living ever-after with doesn’t have hand crafted bombshell body, nor is expected to have diploma lessons in erotic dancing, and you get the answer to the increasing number of disappointed if not unsuccessful marriages.

I still miss the daily last lecture of my school in summer time, when we got all sweaty, I miss Raveena Tondon doing “Ladki Sheher ki Ladki..”, I miss Manisha Koirala running in “Tu hi re…” , I miss Malaika Arora in MTV Loveline, Deepti Bhatnagar in “Mera Laung gawacha“, Anaida in “H0o Halla ho…”, Alisha in “Made in India…” and many many more…

Beauty is however not skin-deep

While most non-star people have some good features, its not that they are ugly, they are beautiful, just not Hot beautiful. God also has this lovely support service, that as you grow old and get wrinkles, you get more and more beautiful. Tell me one ugly Grandma and I’ll eat my words, but I am sure you can’t. So no matter whom you marry, her beauty quotient will only increase than what it is.

If beauty is guaranteed, what then, is the decision making factor, which makes the heart flutter?

The level of Hotness. The drool factor. And for me, its the mind.

A beautiful mind.

One can have numerous fantasies, but they are no fun if one has to tell the partner what to do. One can try roleplay, but if you have to explain the full Princess-Leia-and-the-Gold-bikini thing, its no longer fun. Life, should be intuitive, creative, the partner should compliment the thought process with her own creative inputs, bringing new heights of sensations.

Leave alone the close room recreational activities, there are numerous benefits of getting fixed up with a beautiful mind. One is entitled to heated debates, engaging discussions, all that spice that carries life forward…

When I look back at all the discussions I’ve been having with parents and relatives and other well wishers, who are trying to convince me to ditch my quest for Nimmo, and get settled soon, it gets tiring. They have made peace with their wives, and I’m sure they have no regrets in life, but I still have some years left to search.

This lust for a mind is a difficult thing to explain, sadly, for those like me who have passed through all the other fetish phases, this is the only thing we crave for.

I (preferably) want to spend my life with someone to whom I can say “I do”, not with someone to whom I say “You’ll do”

is it too much to ask for ?

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